The 5 Defense Mechanisms Destroying Your Marriage Everyone has defense mechanisms, according to psychology. They are characterized by protecting the person’s personality and maintaining personal balance. An example would be the person seeing a reality that often does not exist to not be disappointed with something or someone, distorting the situation. This way of looking at life is common and happens to most people. Researchers have pointed out that some defense mechanisms may worsen relationships,…"The 5 Defense Mechanisms Destroying Your Marriage"