TRENDS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ARE YOU AT RISK?
While the domestic violence thing is still trending, its pertinent to know that some people who are experiencing the same in their marriages are also part of the people writing essays on how stupid the lady was not to leave the man. As we are all equipped to be able to hide behind our phones, computers and what not, everyone is now a scholar in the field of domestic violence. Welcome to social media, where the grass is greener! Oh well! more power to you.
As a woman, you were not raised to be used as punching bag or a practicing tool for his invisible battles. While we are at it, i know there are men who go through physical abuse in their marriages as well but statistics speak for themselves. And to the coward of a man who instead of using his brain to speak decided to use the thing between his legs to say we dont know the things the woman said to make the man kill her, I hope to God you have daughters so that if the same happens to them, you will be of the same standpoint.
It’s no longer news that Mercy Aigbe Gentry, Nigerian Actress and CEO of Magdivas boutique, summoned the courage to speak out on the serveral beatings and assault she has been facing in her marriage. The actress had suffered from constant beatings from her husband, Ashiwaju Lanre Gentry. He had at first refused this claim, however a medical report stated a skull injury on Mercy Aigbe by St. Solomon Health Care limited. It was reported that Mercy Aigbe has covered up her husband on several occassion, however could not stand the last beating that almost took her life. The Lagos State Government has also taken up the case to make sure justice prevails.
In a recent interview, she opened up on the trials she faced in her marital home. In her words, ‘He beats me consistently I stayed because I loved him and because every time he beats me, he begs and gets family and friends to beg me. He promised regularly to change but he never did. I stayed because of my children and because a lot of people look up to me and i really want to keep it together. It’s not like I wanted to walk away but I feel we need help. I just wanted to feel safe that is why I packed out.”
A lot of women who are unable to leave their marriages cover up for a long time because of what people will say. Little do they realise that if the violence result to their death, the man moves on. You are the author of your life and the choices you make should not be dependent on people’s opinion. Marriage is not the only thing you have come to hold on to, you have purpose to fulfil, you have a life before you are married. Stand by your decision, say no to violence and speak up!