4 Ways To Gain Back Trust and Love
1. Become an open book
This is particularly important if you have cheated on your partner, or if you have tried to hide something from them. To get trust back, you may have to give up a little of your privacy. Don’t try to hide your computer screen, text messages or daily activities. This is not the time to create a surprise. You need to get trust back before a surprise date or present will be appreciated.
2. Keep promises
Any promise you make will need to be kept if you want to get your love’s trust back. If you make a small promise and said you would go to the mall, then go – even if you would rather be elsewhere. If you are married, consider doing a private vow renewal to remind your significant other of the big promises you have made. Your partner will start to open up more when you are consistent and reliable. Your actions will speak much louder than words.
3. It will take time to rebuild trust, but once you do, it can be stronger than ever. Give your partner some space to come to terms with everything you have shared and done. Perhaps things won’t work out, but there is a good chance that you can regain that trust.
4. Apologize to your love
Remember this is not an opportunity to point fingers- instead, this is the time to say sorry. A face to face conversation is the best way to go. When that is not possible, sit down and hand write a note. In your apology you need to admit you made a mistake, say you are sorry, explain why you did it,
allow your partner to ask questions,
honestly answer the questions, ask for forgiveness, don’t expect everything to be alright right away.
This is not the time to say “Well if you had…” In fact, there is no appropriate time to say something like that. Your partner might recognize that they had a role in the trust being broken, but this is not the time to bring that up.